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One question I get asked a lot from women is, “How can I feel more comfortable about initiating sex?”

If initiating makes you feel uncomfortable, you’re not alone. Some women struggle to get past their good-girls-don’t-like-sex upbringings, while others feel intimidated by today’s over-sexualized culture. Regardless of where you are on the spectrum, initiating with dignity is possible.

Good girls do like sex. We were created to enjoy making love. Did you know an orgasm is not necessary for reproduction? God created sexual pleasure just because he wanted us to experience sexual pleasure. Crazy, I know!

Today’s over-sexualized culture is intimidating for many of us, but we don’t have to buy in to Hollywood’s lame version of intimacy. Instead, find your own style. Discover what makes you feel comfortable and go for it. Below are some ideas for making initiating sex feel a little less weird:

Don’t overthink it.

All you need is five seconds of courage.

Initiating starts now: Skip doing the laundry, take a nap, order take-out, be brave and initiate sex today. You can do it!

Tasha Levert, Ph.D., is a licensed professional counselor in New Orleans who provides face-to-face and online care. She is a conference speaker, worship leader and the author of Stories of Hope for the Sleep Deprived.Tasha and her husband Tim (Pastor with Students at the Vineyard Church of New Orleans) have three beautiful daughters and a lazy schnauzer named Gumbo.
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Does the idea of initiating sex excite or intimidate you?